The third theme, self-growth, was scored when a participant mentioned that she had grown or changed in a positive way due to her raising of children. The parenting-is-hard-to-do category was scored if a respondent discussed how difficult it was to raise kids or how much energy it took to be a parent. The following partial quotation was scored for both self-growth and parenting is hard to do: "When (my child) was 11 she came down with many mysterious debilitating symptoms. This was a difficult time that lasted for years. We finally discovered she had Chronic Fatigue Syndrome... Dealing with all the fallout of these (teenage) years was humbling."
「うちの子供が11歳の時、妻は、原因不明の多くの衰弱兆候を伴って気分も落ち込むようになりました。これは何年も続いて、たいへんな時期でした。結局、妻は慢性疲労症候群であることが分かりました。子供がティーンエイジャーであった期間、妻は一切を放棄していましたが、夫である私は、そのことを責めないようにして妻に接していました。」